Balance – The Myth
As a mother, wife, office manager, and an author, I spent years dreaming about finding the right balance between each of my worlds. Guess what? It’s a myth. If you keep looking for balance, you will never find it.
You have to MAKE it happen.
Yep, totally two different things.
We’re lured into a sense of balance when we’re kids. We get up, go to school, do whatever we do afterwards. Rinse repeat. Once we got our driver’s license, it was still the same routine, except adding later nights into the mix. We had balance.
Somewhere after high school, or even college, balance disappears. We become shufflers. Moving things around, reprioritizing as life changes, organizing things one way only to have them change the next week. That’s reality of adulthood. Sometimes it just sucks.
So, as writers, what can we do to make balance?
1. Schedule time. Even if you can only slip in half an hour to write, do it. I figure that’s about 500 words. By the end of the week, you have 3500 words. You’re ahead. See, easy, right?
2. If you miss a day, don’t worry about it. It’s not that big of a deal. Relax and get back on the horse the next day.
3. Take time off. This is hard for me. I took a week off this summer. My family took a vacation this summer and I promised my husband that I wouldn’t touch my laptop unless it was necessary. I ignored my email for the most part and relaxed. It was oddly nice.
4. Utilize every minute. How is this possible? Well, it’s not easy. I use a voice recorder when I get inspired in the car while I’m driving. If I’m the passenger, I use the note function on my phone. I always have a notebook and pen with me as well. If you have five minutes of downtime, use it. Unless you’re in the middle of #3.
5. Don’t forget what’s important. When you start feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and ask yourself what really matters? That will help you create balance in your life.
Regardless of your lifestyle, balance is necessary to be successful and to stay sane. Create it and, remember, it will always change. ALWAYS. Adjust, move forward. You’ll be fine.
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Publisher: Entangled Flirt
Genre: contemporay romance
Rena Woods has a great life. She recently landed the contract to decorate the home of basketball wife, Cecilia Hood, her business is growing, and this contract could make her the elite decorator in St. Louis. Rena’s sacrificed her personal life for her company without a single regret. When Staff Sergeant C.J. Riker moves in across the hall, Rena can’t stand to be around him. He may be on the volcanic side of hot, but his attitude sucks. Riker does whatever he can to get under Rena’s skin.
After a massive blow to her business sends Rena on a self-destructive binge, Riker is there to save her from doing something she might regret. Could there be more to Riker than meets the eye? And will he open up enough to Rena to tell her how he lost his leg or shut out love forever?
About the Author:
L.S. Murphy lives in the Greater St. Louis area where she watches Cardinals baseball, reads every book she can find, and weaves tales for teens and adults. When not doing all of the above, she tends to The Bean (aka her daughter), her husband and a menagerie of pets. “A Reason to Stay”, a contemporary romance novella, is available as of November 2, 2012. Reaper is her debut young adult novel and is available as of January 7th, 2013.
She is a member of Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators (SCBWI) and the St. Louis Writer’s Guild.